1/8/18 paperwork and Minecraft…

Maggie is still filling out forms for her new job. Her new manager called and gave her more papers to fill out online. She hasn’t started working yet. We got her a cell phone from Walmart. She needed an ID to get it to work. She doesn’t have a valid drivers permit any more so she used her passport number for her ID. Her senior class was going to go on a cruse so we got her a passport. In the end they didn’t go on the cruse. Maggie couldn’t get the phone to start working so she called the help line. We think that the phone is all set up but it may take up to two days to have it go completely through their system and start working. If it doesn’t start working tomorrow then she will call the help desk again.

While Maggie is waiting for her job to start she is working on building a city in Minecraft. She got a lot of pieces of loose leaf paper and taped them together and started to draw her city. There is no map or overview and she needs to keep track of where everything is. She was working on one piece of paper, but the city got too big. She has built the roads in the city but she hasn’t started the buildings yet. She has mapped on the large papers where she wants all of the buildings to go…the school, airport, parks etc. She showed her plan to her sister Beth and Beth didn’t like where the buildings were located. She didn’t like it that the school was by the airport. Maggie understands, but says that there is only so much room and some things will need to be in the wrong spot. Now Maggie has started a new map. She has the streets drawn in and is trying to figure out where to put the buildings. I said that no matter where you put the buildings, someone won’t like it. Put them where you want, or stay with your original plan. She doesn’t like to upset people so she will change her city to make others happy.


1/3/18 Maggie got a job!!!…

Maggie got a job at KFC. Woooooooo hooooooooooo! We are all so excited! She had an interview last week. They called a few days later and gave her a web site to go to to fill out some information. When she was done Maggie called in  to the manager at KFC and he told Maggie that they would call her back to let her know when orientation would be. We are all so relieved. This is Maggie’s first job.

One of her first thoughts was how should she spend her first check. My dads advice to my little sister when she got her first job was to always save half of each check. At first it would be easy because she wouldn’t have any bills. Later she will be used to living off of that amount. His idea was that if she ever needed a larger amount of money for a big bill, a computer, a house or retirement, she would have the money. Also she wouldn’t have the stress of always wondering how she was going to pay for things. I gave that advise to Maggie. She just looked at me. I’m not sure if it was because I have told the kids that story many times or if it was because she had no intention of doing it. I also talked about giving to the church and having some spending money. She listened to me. That evening she made a list of the things that she would like to buy when she gets the money. She also put the dollar amount of each item on the list. It is an impressive list. She has had a lot of time to think and she watched as Beth and William got jobs and started to decide where all of their money would go. Maggie is so relieved to have gotten a job,


12/28/17 interviews…

William didn’t get the job stocking shelves at night. They told him in the interview that they wanted someone with more experience. He has been putting in more applications. Last Saturday he put in an application at a local pizza place. He asked to see the hiring manager and was told that he would be in tomorrow at five. We went back the next day just after five. William had on his suit pants and dress shirt. He didn’t wear his tie or suit jacket. I never know what is acceptable for the kids to wear to interviews at fast food places. Everything says to dress up, but how dressed up should he be to make pizzas? William went back into the pizza place and asked for the hiring manager. When he came back to the car William said that he had an interview and it went well. William is not outgoing or talkative. He is bright, but in public, he is quiet. He is so quiet that he gives off the impression that he doesn’t care. I wish that we had a store that I had taken the kids into for years so that the staff knew them and they could all get first jobs there.
I went around the neighborhood and wrote down all of the names of companies that might have a second or third shift. William needs a company where the start time is at a time when I can drop him off. He does a great job once he clocks in, but he can’t remember to leave the house to get to a job on time. Also, if he walks to work it is difficult to get there at the appropriate time. If he is too early it upsets people and he can’t be late, then he would get fired. I had never thought about this. One day William and I were talking and he said that walking to interviews was incredibly hard. He never knew if lights were all going to turn red and hold him up or if there was going to be a lot of traffic. It is easy to be five or ten minutes early or late for an interview when he walks. I have been trying to drive him to interviews.


12/21/17 college…

Beth is starting school in January. She is excited. Last week she went to the college and found her class rooms and went to see what clubs were available. She got her books and some notebooks. I am so excited for her. She is going to take two classes. I said that she needs to join a club. The kids need friends at the campus to get through. It can’t be all classes and homework. Even if they join a study group, at least they would have friends on campus. She isn’t sure what she wants to major in.


12/11/17 Minecraft…

While Maggie is at home looking for a job she is building on Minecraft, making a castle. The castle was too tall for the game, there is an upper limit on how tall buildings can be, so she blasted down into the ground to start the base at a lower level. While doing this she came upon many caves, underground streams and lava. She built a lot of the castle then decided to start over. She is now building a city. First she put in streets. Then she was going to go to sidewalks. While building the streets Maggie asked me if I wanted a house built in her city. I was thrilled. She had a book of house styles, like tutor and colonial. I wanted a front porch so I picked a cabin. She built the house and furnished it. It was so sweet. Then Maggie went back to building streets.


12/7/17 interviewing and job applications…

William has had an interview at a grocery store to stock shelves at night. He has had about nine months of steady work experience, but was told that they were looking for someone with more experience. I wish that he would go back to school. There is a cleaning company right by us. It is so close and they work after the business has closed for the evening. William is a good worker and does a good job and has great attendance, but he can’t get to work on time. He gets too involved in what ever he is working on and forgets to go and do things. He had great attendance at his first job because he was dropped off at the door at the correct time to clock in. If he went to the cleaning place I would be able to get him there on time.
Maggie has been putting in a lot of job applications. She doesn’t want to drive so we are getting names of businesses that are on areas that her grandma would like to drive to every day. She has had a few interviews. It seems that for every thirty to forty applications she gets an interview and she is now very comfortable with interviewing. She longs to work and have something to do and have some money.


11/30/17 writing…

So much has happened in the last week that I don’t even know where to begin. Everything is good at our house, but since there is such a big gap, a week, so much information, plot line, fun and life have been lost. Today I decided to leave the Nook on each day an write some as I pass it. Maybe that will get me writing every day. So much every day life is happening at our house, and as the days unfold I write blog posts in my mind but don’t get to the Nook to write them down. I’m too tired in the morning and at night to write and too busy during the day. Can you tell how frustrated I am? When Maggie and I are watching a movie she is always playing Minecraft. She can do both at the same time. I can’t. Maybe its because she is brighter than me, or maybe its because I struggle with spelling and need to concentrate on my typing as I go along. I wish I had listened to my mom and teachers in grade school and learned how to spell and how to add and subtract too. It really has made life more of a challenge. OK, I am done whining now.


11/24/17 working…

Maggie got a call for an interview at a pet store. We are so excited. She loves pets. She is really a scientist, but since she dropped out of college, she needs a job. She needs to get her interview outfit together. The store that she is interviewing at is the same one that our ferret was bought at.
Beth is going job hunting with me next week. She has been out of high school for a whole summer and hasn’t looked for a job for the weekdays yet. She had a job at a drive in on the weekends but she didn’t get many hours. She has a car and needs to set some money aside for repairs and hasn’t been able to do that.
William got laid off on Friday. They didn’t have enough work for him. He cleans machines in a factory. The machines are all clean. He had come to me about a month or two ago and said that he knew that he wouldn’t be there much longer. He said that at first the machines had been so dirty that he had really needed to work hard to clean them. But now he is re-cleaning clean machines. He could see that they wouldn’t need him long. That’s when we started to look tor a a school for him. He said that he wanted to do programming. It would get him off of his foot. He wasn’t upset that he had been let go. This wasn’t his dream job, but he had been happy that he could buy some candy or a two liter of Coke whenever he wanted to. Now he doesn’t have a job and he isn’t scheduled to go back to school. I asked if waited to go do the pretest at school. He said no. He wanted another job. I am so … not upset … I guess concerned… that he isn’t working. We looked for a job for him for so long before we found this one. Now he does have almost a year of working to put on his resume and he was laid off for lack of work. So maybe we can find something right away for him.
Now … all three kids that are looking for jobs. The temporary agency that William was through said that they would help him find something. They will look close to our house. He doesn’t want to drive, so he will need to be able to walk home from work.


11/14/17 responsibilities…

When the kids were all out of high school I was so glad to be getting past one responsibility. A few years ago, I had kids in college and high school and kids dating, and getting jobs and getting cars and talking about moving out. It was a lot for me to keep track of. In high school, it is the students responsibility to get the work done, but the parents have to go to the conferences if there is a problem. So… I always felt responsible and spent a lot of time asking, do you have any projects that are due, any reports, anything that you need from me? I also needed go be ready to drive them to events at school and with their friends. We had added on so many new areas that needed watched over and hadn’t taken any away. I was in overload. When Beth graduated, so many of my responsibilities left.
When we were at church the weekend after graduation they were talking about the summer retreat for the high school kids. I started thinking, did I sign Beth up? Does she have that weekend free? Then I realized, she is out of high school and won’t be going to this event. I was so relieved. It is like when the kids were toddlers and I would see a diaper commercial and panic, when did I buy diapers last, should we go tonight, then I would realize that my kids were past diapers, and a whole wave of relief washed over me, like there is something going on in the world and I was not responsible for it.
The kids did handle their responsibilities, and there was a light at the end of the tunnel, the date for graduation had been set, so I knew that responsibility from all of the high school events would be over soon. That helped, the hope of a better tomorrow. When the kids were little I was in a share group at church, it really helped to hear each week what the other parents were in the middle of at their house. Now that the kids are older, they are handling their own responsibilities and it is so nice to be able to watch them grow as adults.
What do you do when you have too many things going on at the same time?


11/9/17 writing and getting out of high school…

 I need to write more often. Maggie and I went for a walk in the woods, William and I met with the school counselor, Maggie and I went to a demonstration on carving arrowheads out of wood, the continuing saga of Beth’s Social Security card, the ferrets new hiding place for the cat food, the new clothes washer and the laundromat, the Minecraft update… …there is probably more but it is 11:12 at night and I am a morning person so this is all I can think of.
Beth has looked so happy since she got out of high school. Still young but standing up a little straighter after graduation. She looked like a weigh had been lifted off of her shoulders too. She worries a lot about things like I do. She can get an A minus on a test and worry about what it will do too her grades. She used to come home in grade school and say, mommy, I was so worried about my spelling test that we took in the morning that I couldn’t play at recess. She had known the words so well that she had them memorized by Wednesday of that week. We would then go over them on Friday morning and she would get an A. But she still worried. She still looked worried when she got home from school, knowing that she had passed. That is not to say that she got a lot of good grades, she really did know the work, but in kindergarten she was asked to be in the gifted group. Beth asked the other kids who were in it what it was like. They told her that it was different learning and puzzles and all that they did. She asked if it was after school, they said no that it was during free play time. So Beth decided that it was an extra class and refused to go. So all through school, Beth always threw away some of her work to keep her grades low so that she didn’t get put into the gifted program. Sometimes she threw away too many assignments and ended up in summer school. I told her to quit throwing her assignments away, she said no, and that she knew all of the work and shouldn’t have to go to summer school. She still had to go because her grades were so low. Now that she is out of high school, summer school is over.


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