Mom had an uneasy feeling about the surgery that she was having yesterday, she thought that she wouldn’t make it through. She was having shoulder surgery. The surgery was scheduled for seven thirty in the morning so she had to be there at five thirty. I was taking her but I also needed to get William to work on time. First I said that I would take mom, drop her off at the hospital and go back home for William and take him to work then go back to the hospital for mom. Then I decided that we should take William with us to the hospital and then I wouldn’t need to go back home to get him. I wanted to be at the hospital as much as possible and William doesn’t drive. I just didn’t want to make William get up that early. Another choice was to have him take a day off but he hasn’t worked long enough to have vacation days. He said that it would be no problem to get up early and go with us. He could sleep in the car until it was time to take him to work. We needed to be at moms house at four forty-five am to be at the hospital at five thirty.
We did get up on time and got to moms ten minutes early. She was sure that there was going to be a problem during the surgery so she showed me some of the things in her house that she wanted me to take care of if she didn’t make it. Mom is never like this. She has had surgery before, but has never had this uneasy feeling about it. William hadn’t been sure if he was going to wait in the car or go in with us. In the end he decided to wait in the car. Mom told the people at the desk that she was here and she and I talked for a while as she waited to be checked in. Soon I left and took William to work and then went back to the hospital. Mom had checked in and had been taken to the surgery area. I was given a pager. When mom had settled in I was paged and went to see her.
In the end, the surgery went fine. Mom was released that day. It seems so odd to imagine what life would be like without mom around. We have always lived close enough to each other that we could see each other every day if we wanted to. There have been times when we could have moved to a different state, but the move at the time didn’t make sense, so we stayed here. We had lived with mom for a few years when the kids were young and for many years she took the kids to school. I’m glad that she is OK. We will be spending a lot of time at her house while she recovers, cutting her grass and taking her to get groceries.