William had a dentist appointment today. I have been reminding him for a while to use dental floss. When the kids were young they didn’t floss, I’m not sure but they may not have brushed either. I never found any dental floss in the garbage cans and one day I found Maggie standing in front of the bathroom mirror holding the toothbrush in one hand and the tube of toothpaste in the other hand looking into the mirror. Maggie is not my fashion girl so I am not sure what was more odd, that she was starring into the mirror, or that she was holding the toothbrush and tooth paste. I asked her what she was doing, she said brushing. She said brushing like this is how she always brushes…oh my. I said that she needed to put toothpaste on the toothbrush to brush, Maggie looked at her toothbrush and toothpaste and shrugged her shoulders and put the toothpaste on the toothbrush and went back to looking in the mirror. I had been expecting her to put the toothbrush into her mouth, my mistake…so we started brushing together. We brushed together after dinner each night and flossed. My hope was that they would learn the habit of brushing and like going to the dentist and not having any cavities. Then when they were older and they could decide if they would brush and floss or not, and they would choose to brush. Now that the kids are older I am trying to let them have more freedom. We don’t brush together any more. I miss the time together. We had a lot of fun talking while everyone was getting toothpaste and trying to figure out who got to rinse first when we were done. Now we just brush separately.
There are so many things that the kids and I used to do together that we don’t do now. They did need the freedom to grow up, but I do miss the time with them. We were always going somewhere in the car, or watching library movies together and all sitting on one couch, or playing outside and on and on. Now we have less time together, the kids all have their own interests and friends and we don’t run around as a big group as much. We do have a lot of shorter times together and a lot of the time I am with one of them at a time. Two of the kids, William and Maggie don’t drive so they need rides everywhere.
I can honestly say that I am really happy about who the kids have grown up to be.